Toxic relationships make you feel good. Narcissistic and emotionally unavailable people are good at getting things done. Meegan and Andre's play has been viewed more than 1.5 million times. And the reason is twofold.
It's fun to watch, but it's also identifiable. Most of us can identify and have been or may be in a relationship that you knew wasn't the best for you. But sometimes, no matter how hard you try, you can't get enough of this person no matter how hard you try to leave. Narcissistic and emotionally unavailable people are good at doing things that make you feel like they care for and love you in limited doses.
They are usually very experienced in doing enough to make you feel safe and are capable of deceiving even the most intelligent of us. So now that I had one, why did I feel so weird? It's crucial for both people in a relationship to know that negative thoughts and feelings can be safely communicated without threatening the entire future of the relationship. My course on healthy relationships at The Subtle Art School delves into what creates toxic dynamics in relationships and how to get out of it. This has a lot to do with familiarity: people who grow up in chaos or emotional instability can develop the experience as their norm, which can affect what they seek in future relationships and possibly cause them to self-sabotage potential healthy relationships as they lose what they expect.
But the person in your toxic relationship is so convincing and persuasive, that when all is said and done, they make you doubt yourself so much that you barely recognize who you've become after being in a relationship with them. Non-toxic people who stay in a toxic relationship will never stop trying to improve the relationship, and toxic people know that. With the same caution, couples counseling may not be the right choice for you depending on the dynamics of the relationship. While the effects of a toxic relationship may be justifiable because it sometimes offers temporary happiness, it paralyzes you and allows you to have a relationship that is more suitable for you.
